Tuesday, February 12, 2013


Hudson is so handsome. 

Those eyes and lashes!  Be still my heart!

What? I'm biased you say.  In my defense complete strangers tell us how handsome he is and they don't have any motivation to lie. :) 

A comment we hear often is "Oh, he's going to be a heartbreaker!"  We understand the intent of that comment, and at the risk of sounding hyperspiritual - we really hope not.

In honor of the upcoming Valentine holiday, let me explain. 

In today's society there is a ton of pressure put on guys and gals to date.  Just a quick perusal of the magazines in the grocery check-out line makes that clear.  While most of these magazines are targeted to women, men are not ignored in this matter.  Think of the comments made (in secret usually) about boys who aren't yet dating - questions of his sexuality, questions of his manhood, etc...  People expect their boys to be heartbreakers, or atleast try to break some hearts.

Lecrae, a rapper who recently won a Grammy (Congrats Lecrae!), briefly speaks to this issue in his song "Just Like You".  He raps "..to love a wife like the church without seeing how many hearts you can break first."  This is our hope and prayer for Hudson.  Now, in defense of heartbreakers, I'm not 100% sure every heartbreaker intentionally seeks out to break hearts on purpose.  However whether on purpose or not, dating with no intentionality - dating just for dating's sake does hurt at least one of the partners.  Ultimately, I could argue that even the one who is cavalier about the relationship is hurt in the long run but that's a post for another day. This is not the biblical picture of dating/courtship. 


Saving all his kisses for Mama!
We would love for Hudson to enter into his future marriage with as little baggage as possible from previous relationships.  Can we guarantee this? Of course not.  All we can do is pray for him, teach him how men are to treat women, discipline him when necessary, forgive him when he fails, and trust the Lord.  Crazy? Radical? Yes and we're OK with that.  So just know that if you compliment our sweet boy with "He's going to be a heartbreaker!" we'll probably respond with a "Thank you, we hope not."

I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem,
that you do not stir up love or awaken love until it pleases.
Song of Solomon 8:4 esv

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